Courtship of a different kind - Part 1

Define: seeking the affections of a woman (usually with the hope of marriage)

Among Indian guys, it is popularly divided into two stages. The first phase is known as "Adhu oru kanaa kaalam" known for the intense self beautification ritual instigated by even the faintly beautiful girl, followed by neer abhishekam (jal abhisheka for the tamil-disoriented). This divine water flows incessantly following a self realisation called adolescence. Since Dubukku has mastered the art of story telling in this period, I will shelve the (ghost) stories from my own past.

The second phase is the legal jollu uttufying period between engagement and marriage afflicting unsuccessful participants from the first phase. More likely, the same applies to both the genders. This is analogous to a match to decide the third place that nobody cares to watch. Thus, the couple seek solace from being undisturbed in their courtship. Unlike the first phase, where volatile reactions occur, engagement turns the Indian parents from Indian Ocean to Pacific Ocean within a blink of an eye. Late nights wakey talkey singles are cooed, and blank calls are blush-interpreted. Mock anger is put forth once in a while to ensure "adult" intervention. This is also the convenience period, where the guy does not smoke or drink, and the gal is homely and shy. She talks only when talked to, while he is handsome and adoring. "Everything is nice when nobody is wise" saying comes into play in full force during this extraneously extravagant exciting exercise.

The phrase "Subhashya seekram" (Do good things fast) plays spoil sport, although it correlates well with trying to tie up two losers with the throngs of marriage, before their "honeymoon period" gets over and to ensure that they dont do any "silly things". Ofcourse, the "exciting" things on offer after marriage makes the two fall into line. It slowly dawns on them during the marriage day that they are the two most neglected souls in the ceremony full of cricket, current affairs, politics and future marriages. People bless them with long lives, definitely long enough to realise their folly.

And then "the third person" hears "they lived happily ever after...".

In the next part, I will venture into my personal life, and the funda behind the heading. Viewers' (in)discretion might suggest that I might be the author of Harry Potter, and that I might author another 6 parts that might make their stomachs rival Shakira ending in a rather bemusing, yet utterly disgusting, excretion from the wrong side of the body. Please rest assured that the former is incorrect, and that I would stand aghast at even a mention of one of those books. For further information, please contact M(r)s Princess.

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Bloggers' clog

Increasingly I find that my blogger circle has become dormant. While fully aware of the reasons for the sharp slump in my own frequency (laziness masked as excuses), I am not sure about the reason for the rest of them switching off. Surfing blogs used to be an everyday ritual, when I wished I had enough time...But now it seems like everyone is stuck up or too hung up to post a few things...

Maybe technology has given them an alternative avenue to vent their feelings and expressions... Analogous to the SMS and Chat luring teens, much like Email captivated teens a decade ago, I do find a lot of people go in for Orkut rather than blog nowadays. Although it could prove exhasperating trying to follow another person's scrap book entries, it does provide an avenue for quick and short communiques with your own friends. The visibility is much less, but precise and concise messages take centre stage.

Interestingly, I was one of the first few to use both these technologies, and I have been a jack, stuck between the two, with a 100+ blog entries, and a 100+ scrap book entries. Masters of these are counting in thousands. Although I see the good points of both, I do think blogs are etched in time, while scraps are meant for that moment in time. I started a blog as a bigraphical log, and will definitely continue it in the same vein.

The purpose of this post is to reach out to those lazy guys and gals present as links in the right hand side of this page, who havent posted for a while... wake up and get going... for, there will always be some who love to read what u have got to say...I am sure everyone had their own sweet reasons for starting it, but I am damn sure they have none when they really think about why they stopped.

You will stay atop until you stop!

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Inspiration

When a man fights from the brink of defeat and humiliation to prove himself again at the level he was revered, it shows a man of character. Sourav Ganguly has just done that, and it is indeed fascinating. I have always been a fan of the classy left hander, and his impeccable grace, let alone his mighty sixes. Let me draw on his inspiration and apply it to blogging, so that this blog doesnt go down the drain.

I remember starting this blog with a remark that this is just an online catalog of my life. I have never bothered about the number of comments in here, and I hope to stay that way. A lot has been happening the last few months that had kept me too busy to blog (aka lazy). For those viveks who exclaim "Figure a paathu friend a cut pannittan", it is just one side of the story. The last six months, I have worked harder than ever, inside my house. I have gained great appreciation on what my mother had done all these years, literally bone crunching tedious tiring exhasperating work. Worries were never my forte, and I do know the reason now. Your purest is in your thoughts, and my dearest friends were definitely part of it. My planning skills were put to a test and my communication skills suffered as a result. I do hope things will be back to normal, now that I know commitment means a lot.

For those eager souls, the last couple of weeks flew in a flash in India! My formal engagement ceremony inbetween made it quite hectic and enjoyable as well. Expectedly, it was a sweet shock for all my relatives. For the first time in my life, I had no clue what I am doing during that ceremony! I have always shied away from the spotlight, and it was quite flestering to be in the centre. For statistical purposes, this is the first ceremony that I have actually seen properly :P I have always been entrusted with looking after kids and playing with them during any of the family gatherings. Although a couple of kids were fighting over who wanted to sit on my lap, I did not have much of my "usual work" to do. Trust me, my sis and aunt didn't make it any better by making up all kinds of jokes. I did wonder how I am going to get through the marriage day sitting 5-6 hrs in the smoke. I get suffocated by even naptha, so I am quite concerned. A flurry of introductions on my in-laws' side interjected my thoughts, and before I knew it, there I was, engaged to the girl I fell head over heels for, 3 yrs back. I guess thats life!

Back to the present, days are going through at a snail's pace. Nothing much to do at work or home. Relaxing was never my strong point, so I am eager to latch on to the things I have missed the past few months, and enjoy the last few months of my bachelorhood. Reminiscencing, life has indeed come a full circle for me, and having seen both sides of the story, I definitely like this one :)

When time is wrong, miseries throng; When time is right, things look bright;

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India here I come!

Hi guys,

I am home bound for a couple of weeks. Not that I have been posting much of late, but anywayz, if anyone cares, pls give me a call or email...

Off from Changi Airport!