Ordinary Person

Claimer: This topic has irked me for quite a while, and finally I find soemtime to pen it down. Since its not too hot in my mind right now (cos of other things "bug"ging me, it might be a bit mellowed down...

Who are these "ordinary people". Are ordinary people not attractive? I have talked to quite a few people(guys n gals) in my life, and everyone has at some point talked about how much they adore/want/need a stylish smart (lookin) handsome guy/gal. I am in no way blaming them. They have eyes and they have to make good use of it. But what is sad is that during the process of admiring the guys/gals with those characteristics, the other people (refer title) are left to brood over their luckless existence and worse still, made a mockery of. For example, girls tend to admire the "style" in which one guy smokes or the way in which his muscles bulges out almost breaking their heart, or how they wud give everything juz to be next to a Mr. World. And before the gals start branding me as MCP, I think I shud clarify that the guys are none the better. They wud rather brood over a once upon Ms. World turned aunty turning into kezhavi, than a quiet girl next door. Its just that I am taking the example of girls cos as a guy, I am more interested and concerned about them. Else the whole topic will never end. But exactly the same, if not more, applies to the guys.

I know of how many girls who brand smoking, drinking etc etc may be "not all that bad", and they might have the hots for such a guy, but why shud a teetottler be mocked at, just because he doesnt do "not all that bad" stuff. Its bad enuf justifying bad as good, but its worse condemning good as bad. They say love comes from the heart, and should not be corrupted by the physical appearance etc etc, so why do you still want the people whom you love/want to love to be "tall", "smart", "handsome", "sexy" as the first criteria, and not satisfied if a person whom you love doesnt possess those characteristics? I feel people in general these days are very biased towards the material attributes (wealth, power, status, popularity or body) rather than things related to dharma and artha, typically branded as "good-to-have but ignorable things" (health, love, passion, morals, values) during the formative years of the relationship. Some words like love, beauty has been corrupted by society to such an extent that you dare not even say these words aloud, lest you get "branded". Thats why you can see a lot more utterances of "he's so hot", "he's damn cool" rather than "he's good", "he's nice".

I saw 5 girls in McDonalds today. School kids. All 5 were smoking. I know a bit of face reading, but even otherwise, you cud see the attitude in their eyes. I dare not mention what was written on their t-shirts, not to mention its size and orientation showcasing their "beauty". Its sad to see gals in silver screens appearing in next to nothing showcasing their "dare devil" attitudes. I wonder how much the parents shudder if their kids wanna go for a movie these days. Is this how they shud portray their "i-dont-give-a-damn" attitude in a country which proclaims that you should be "humble" and learn to "respect" and behave in a "responsible respectable" manner?

All I can do is pray. Not to mention the consoling fact that there are very nice "ordinary gals" out there. Hopefully much more than what I know. Now for the consolation prize...Ordinary gals and guys suddenly turn into "hot" property when it comes to marriage. Suddenly the entire spectrum seems to be "adakkam, odukkam, panivu" and hitherto unknown unproclaimed uninterested skills like cooking, housekeeping, respect comes to the fore. But imagine what a girl wud think of a guy who comes in a pyjama, dhoti and smeared with viboodhi or namam? "Nyana pazham" or the like. Isnt that cruel? Being nice is not so "niceeee". Being sweet is not "chooo chweeeet". But my kostin is simple. You dont have to scream that its positive. But why shud that be treated in a negative way?

Im an ordinary man. Im proud of the fact. Im not hep. I dont drink. I dont smoke (though a chance mention of a beedi got me a nick). I dont have adulterous relationships. I still rue that I am not wearing a namam everyday. I dont visit gyms, pubs, discos. I recite slokas and gayathri (+J) japam. I squirm in my seat if there are any mushy sceens on the screen. I am interested in astrology, palmistry, numerology and vedas. I am not outdated. I am not a sage. Im blessed with what I have. I dont feel bad about what I dont have. I am satisfied. I am not contended. I have the fire. I dont show it. I am not plain. Im just plain different. And I feel so are all the "ordinary people" out there...

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